Bullies are rampant and they will never go away, they’re a part of this cruel world.Sadly, it’s a fact based on my experience.
Since grade school through high school and now that I am an adult ,there’s no single moment I’ve never experienced not being bullied.And there’s no single moment I stand for myself even if I look like I am sitting.
I am 4 feet and 9 inches and roughly about 89 lbs and the last person I had conflict with at work is 5’10 and about 220 lbs.Everyone at work tolerated her hideous,unacceptable behaviors.I did my best to be neutral and not engaging conversations with her but she keeps on picking on me for some reason .Like how she treats everyone,she likes to yell and she always enjoy the attention of audience when she’s humiliating somebody .She thinks the work place is a ghetto place where she probably came from.At first, I let go of those humiliating things she’s done to me.But few days ago,I faced her and I stood my ground before her huge structure with no fear.I didn’t harm her nor has plans or intentions to hurt her.She threatened me but I did not show any fear.All I know is that the people around us were silent.I had the last statement and I didn’t raise my voice.I just did my best to emphasized the boundaries she must know.And then I walked out of the situation.
One of our coworker who were there during the heated conversations approached me and told me “You’re right!” And she gave me a hug.
I told that person it’s not about being right but standing for your right even if it means standing alone.
I came home that night,I prayed and I cried out to God.I asked “How long do I have to deal with this kind of people?”
As much as I want to forgive people who have nothing but evil pleasure towards others ,it’s becoming impossible for me to forgive such kind of evil behaviors.
But then again God reminded me of His mercy.How he died on the cross for my sins.When I think about how I’ve fallen short for the glory of God and how he continues to give me new mercy each day ,I have to extend the same mercy with others.
I eventually thanking God for giving me difficult people in my life such as those bullies,so I can practice and continue to learn to forgive.
I won’t learn the concept of forgiveness without someone to forgive with.
So how do you deal with bullies?
I only have one answer.Just pray for them.If it doesn’t work,just continue to pray for them.
Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.